Hot take from someone who left her stable, well-paid corporate job to “follow her calling”…
👉 I don’t actually believe in the concept of “calling.”
Yep. I said it.
Brb, waiting for the spiritual police to kick down my door any moment now 🚨
For a long time, I really thought one day I would have this crystal-clear moment of cosmic clarity.
Like, I’d be sipping my £7 oat latte in a hipster cafe and suddenly hear:
“
🔊 “YOU. WERE BORN TO FACILITATE MINDFULNESS AND HOST WORKSHOPS ON TUESDAYS AT 4PM.”
Tattooed hipster barista witnessing the calling
(Unfortunately it didn’t happen)
In my opinion, the problem with this whole calling idea is that it kind of makes it sound like:
You’re powerless until the calling finds you
You can’t be truly fulfilled until The Message™ arrives
And if you never hear it? Well… good luck in the void.
This doesn't click for me.
You know that I like to be real with you in here, and I want to share that I’ve spent a good chunk of time lately wondering (ok, fine, spiraling) if I will ever feel “the calling” to be a mother.
Like, did I miss the memo?
Was my phone on silent?
Am I broken?
Am I selfish?
Will they cast me as the villain of the new Pixar movie?
Here’s what I believe instead:
"What we are meant to do" is not some magical “aha” moment delivered by the Universe’s Customer Support line.
(Press 1 for reincarnation inquiries. Press 2 for purpose confusion. Press 3 for missing socks support group.)
It’s about your values. The ones you pick.
And then the ones you decide to live by. Intentionally. Imperfectly.
When I’m confused AF?
I check in with mycurrentvalues.
(Key word: current. Because, for example, last year I valued geographical freedom, and that doesn't feel like a top priority now.)
💛 Want to prioritize love + connection? → Maybe parenthood could be an option 📈 Craving stability + impact? → Corporate life might be relevant 🕊 Screaming for novelty + autonomy? → Hellooo, freelancing
There’s no one, sacred, unicorn path to fulfilment.
No one is going to “call” you.
You’re the one with the phone.
And your values are the digits to dial.
✅ It’s not about “finding” your passion ❌ It’s about picking what you want to value and owning your decisions
You get to decide how you want to show up for this weird, beautiful, chaotic ride called life.
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